I have missed four posts on my blog in the recent past. I genuinely do not have an excuse for it. I admit that I was unable to manage my schedule or my daily activities, and my blog suffered the consequence.
At first exhaustion was my excuse, I was just too tired at the end of the day and too anxious at the beginning of the day to write down what’s on my mind. However today I was reminded of what I have become; I am not exhausted, I am not anxious and am not having a busy schedule, I am just not the proverbs 31 woman.
For a long time women have spoken of a Proverbs 31 woman as a boss lady, a legit slay queen, a sexy boss woman like the one Ne-yo sings about in his famous miss independent lyrics. I like to identify with this woman, because I too am a boss lady by own right, I have turned not just heads when I walk into a room but I have also intrigued minds and created candid conversations that have brought change to my society. A girl younger than me or a modern day preacher would easily call me a proverbs 31 woman, not aware that away from the boardroom and the good looks, my husband had his breakfast at a cafeteria in his workplace, my blog went unattended and if I did have children, the nanny, not me would have been the first to know about their strengths and weaknesses.
It’s easy to assume and until that moment that I actually decided to look into the holy book and see what a proverbs 31 woman looks like, I would have been convinced that I am one of those. I have clearly not achieved wholeness, where I am able to balance my whole life without any part of it suffering.
I don’t know if you care to understand this woman, or if you wish to become her, but I am on a journey to become. I am beginning to understand just how equal woman was created to man. It’s easy for us women to put away our money and depend on our partners. The men do not mind, they were raised and prepared to be the providers not just of material things but for guidance and leadership. We have laid back and left that responsibility to them, hence when we make moves, when we prosper in our careers and afford our own lifestyle, we have confused that for the proverbs 31 woman, we think that is an exceptional thing to become, yet it’s meant to be the norm.
It came as a shock to me when I read the real Proverbs 31 and realized there is more to this woman than what we have perceived her to be. She is a woman who directly provides guidance to her sons. She leads by example and is intentional to her sons, so that they may know and understand what a woman must look like, so that when time is right, they may look deeper than the physique and find the right woman for themselves.
She looks good and beautiful, but she understands that it all fades away and the values that she stands for will be the foundation she builds for herself and generations to come. She invests more on her wholeness and just but a fraction on her appearance.
A proverbs 31 woman is a selfless woman, before she finds time for herself, she has placed her children, her servants and her husband first. It will surprise you that she, not her servant, is the first up in the morning and the last to bed at night. She looks through her household and corrects what needs to be corrected and notes what needs to be worked on. Her husband talks about her with pride because she has caused him respect among other people in the society.
She too owns pieces of property that she has used wisdom to acquire, they are not just her investments, but investments she makes for her household. Her businesses succeed and she is never worried about tomorrow because she has prepared well for it.
I am not well prepared for tomorrow, in fact I am hardly well prepared for today. I worry about the things I have to achieve and I am realizing it’s because I do not take enough time to prepare for my day. I fight to wake in the morning, and let’s admit it, we all have a secret stash somewhere safe for ourselves.
The proverbs 31 woman is basically a woman that provides, protects, gives guidance, raises generations, and fights for her family. She is a business woman, a wise woman and most importantly the woman who even her own children can attest that she is blessed.
I don’t know if I will ever to explain why I really don’t think I am a proverbs31 woman, but I encourage you to stop by Proverbs 31, it’s nice that we talk about it, but it’s time we understand what it really means to be a proverbs 31 woman.